Coaching Landscape

Lefty wrote:

Hersoccerdad wrote:

Lefty wrote:

ItsMeAgain wrote:95%+ of all the coaches are lie, mislead, deflect, exaggerate, and all have elitist superiority complexes...............and will continue to do that even when  you call them out on it.....................nearly everything that comes out of their mouth is BS, even when you try to have honest expectations established in advance.....................my advice is to roster your kid randomly with a team at a big club as a floater for some kind of dues discount or register as a non rostered player and guest play tournaments every chance you get.....................spend your money and focus your time on academics (thats going to get you the scholarship $$$$) and skills training if you want your kid to truely develop...............its the outside effort where the kid evolves....................these coaches dont do *foul language*

Your post may be a wee bit over the top, particularly in the % it applies to,  though I have seen all the behaviors you point out frequently demonstrated by many 'coaches'.  Probably a good list of things to be on the lookout for and avoid when doing due diligence on a coach.

Have also seen a fair number of coaches who are honest and straight forward vilified because they just have poor communication/social skills or parents don't like the message.

Your advice on how to proceed sounds unrealistic for most.  Seems like a better option is to do your due diligence and find a coach who is relatively honest and straight forward and fits your DD's needs at a particular point in time.

Very good advice. Thing is. You can look throughout the season, when you have time (who has that? . And stupid NTX soccer only gives you six weeks or so to practice (and hopefully) guest play with a team to see if there's chemistry with the team and your DD.

We kind of looked at doing coaching due diligence as part of everyday soccer activity.

Listen to people, watch coaches at games, practices, tournaments, HS etc.  

Listen to what coaches say about other coaches.

You are the only one looking out for your DD's best interest.  If you are realistic about your DD's skill level, level of commitment and best coaching style for her, the list for good fits narrows down pretty quickly.

Over the years we saw the biggest blowups and bad fits happen when parents ignored the above and went with the winningest team that they could find for their DD disregarding all other factors.

A wise coach told us early on.  Have your DD go where she is wanted, valued and fits.  She will perform the best, develop the best, otherwise you are going to drain all the fun out of the game for her.  

Actually not bad advice for a number of other things besides soccer.

Lefty wrote:

Hersoccerdad wrote:

Lefty wrote:

ItsMeAgain wrote:95%+ of all the coaches are lie, mislead, deflect, exaggerate, and all have elitist superiority complexes...............and will continue to do that even when  you call them out on it.....................nearly everything that comes out of their mouth is BS, even when you try to have honest expectations established in advance.....................my advice is to roster your kid randomly with a team at a big club as a floater for some kind of dues discount or register as a non rostered player and guest play tournaments every chance you get.....................spend your money and focus your time on academics (thats going to get you the scholarship $$$$) and skills training if you want your kid to truely develop...............its the outside effort where the kid evolves....................these coaches dont do *foul language*

Your post may be a wee bit over the top, particularly in the % it applies to,  though I have seen all the behaviors you point out frequently demonstrated by many 'coaches'.  Probably a good list of things to be on the lookout for and avoid when doing due diligence on a coach.

Have also seen a fair number of coaches who are honest and straight forward vilified because they just have poor communication/social skills or parents don't like the message.

Your advice on how to proceed sounds unrealistic for most.  Seems like a better option is to do your due diligence and find a coach who is relatively honest and straight forward and fits your DD's needs at a particular point in time.

Very good advice. Thing is. You can look throughout the season, when you have time (who has that? . And stupid NTX soccer only gives you six weeks or so to practice (and hopefully) guest play with a team to see if there's chemistry with the team and your DD.

We kind of looked at doing coaching due diligence as part of everyday soccer activity.

Listen to people, watch coaches at games, practices, tournaments, HS etc.  

Listen to what coaches say about other coaches.

You are the only one looking out for your DD's best interest.  If you are realistic about your DD's skill level, level of commitment and best coaching style for her, the list for good fits narrows down pretty quickly.

Over the years we saw the biggest blowups and bad fits happen when parents ignored the above and went with the winningest team that they could find for their DD disregarding all other factors.

A wise coach told us early on.  Have your DD go where she is wanted, valued and fits.  She will perform the best, develop the best, otherwise you are going to drain all the fun out of the game for her.  

Actually not bad advice for a number of other things besides soccer.