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Team Shopping and Select
Team Shopping and Select
PalindromeEye- TxSoccer Lurker
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There is a small exception to this in that there are some coaches who believe in team development and will play every player even if it means risking the game. But that also causes problems for the team because the parents and the kids see it and the competitive ones will leave.
Hope this helps...just one opinion of the many out there
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If that's not what he has told you, then you should talk with him so that you know where she stands. Ask him if he were picking the team today if she would be on the team. You probably want to check back with him after the spring season and going into June.
Based on what you say there is a dynamic on this team that works for your daughter and your family. Finding another team that works for her and your family is going to be hard if you find out in mid-June that she won't have a spot on her current team.
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Please know that anything you dislike about this team now will be significantly compounded once you sign that first contract. The circumstances surrounding your dislikes may not have changed but things are about to get even more expensive and there's no easy escape from the year-long contractual commitment. Those things that used to be a little irritating suddenly become really irritating. (It's like the difference between dating and being married.)
That includes playtime. Once that contract is signed, you're locked in. If your DD only plays 50% of a game now, you should expect that to be reduced to 25%-40%. If she only plays 25% now, you should expect that to be reduced to 5%-10%.
The people that sign the bad contracts always seem to head into this first contract blindly. When they get passed over by their team of choice they're left to scramble at the last minute and grab whatever they can. Those are the big failures we read about in August and September.
It sounds like this coach is openly telling you that you need to be shopping around right now. He's doing you a favor by telling you this. Don't be a fool and ignore the clear warnings he's giving you. Start shopping now. Have a back-up plan and a back-up back-up plan.
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If your DD is a bench player now, but as you say you are happy with the coach, and your DD is happy, then you are in a good situation for you and your DD. However, if your team has a strong chance > 50/50 of qualifying, there will be studs from less successful teams that will come knocking this year. That would mean trouble for your DD's situation. Conversely, if your team is looking like a D2/PPL/APL team, a stud or two from your current team may leave for one of the stronger teams, thus making your DD's spot on this roster more secure.
It gets even crazier after the first season of classic. Stud players who thought their team would make D1 are off to the races on April 1, and will attend every D1 team practice they can until they get picked up. Every bench player on a D1 team is seriously at risk after that first year, and many starters end up riding the bench in year two. It eventually settles down, with the exception of the team(s) that gets relegated out of D1...its about a 50/50 chance that the team will implode, as the studs will want to stay in D1, and the team will be unable to recruit D1 caliber players to play on a D2 team.
So in a nutshell, keep your eyes open and watch your back.
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Thanks for all the input, I'm sure others have similar questions.
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Does she love it and have the drive enough to play at a high level for years to come? I think you should be able to tell by now if your DD has the drive to do so or not. Don't get me wrong, drive does not mean she will automatically be a D1 scholarship athlete. We all still have to deal with genetics, boys and cars and social etc... through the teenage years - but the work ethic and mindset it takes to play top level soccer should be pretty identifiable by this age.
My point is, if she has the drive and potential and love it takes to go to the next level, by all means fight, fight, fight. But on the other hand, if she just likes playing and is content with being 10-15, maybe a lower level team would be better - where there is not as much pressure to "perform or be replaced"... She would most likely thrive, build confidence, leadership skills etc... All of these can translate from soccer to real life rather than be beat down relegated to the bench and come away from the select experience feeling she is "not good enough".
There are plenty of great coaches that coach teams that are not D1 or even D2. And you never know when self confidence is built, drive can be kindled and the next level in soccer can still be achieved - if she wants it.
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flygirl wrote:I think it just comes down to the kid.
Does she love it and have the drive enough to play at a high level for years to come? I think you should be able to tell by now if your DD has the drive to do so or not. Don't get me wrong, drive does not mean she will automatically be a D1 scholarship athlete. We all still have to deal with genetics, boys and cars and social etc... through the teenage years - but the work ethic and mindset it takes to play top level soccer should be pretty identifiable by this age.
My point is, if she has the drive and potential and love it takes to go to the next level, by all means fight, fight, fight. But on the other hand, if she just likes playing and is content with being 10-15, maybe a lower level team would be better - where there is not as much pressure to "perform or be replaced"... She would most likely thrive, build confidence, leadership skills etc... All of these can translate from soccer to real life rather than be beat down relegated to the bench and come away from the select experience feeling she is "not good enough".
There are plenty of great coaches that coach teams that are not D1 or even D2. And you never know when self confidence is built, drive can be kindled and the next level in soccer can still be achieved - if she wants it.
Hey where's the "like" button on this thing?
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Re: Team Shopping and Select
If it were me, I would not keep my DD on the team. I'd be preparing to leave no matter how comfortable we felt. The fact that your coach has been honest and told you that your DD will be replaced if possible... No coach would say this to a family that he/she is interested in keeping or getting more invested in. He/she is politely showing you were the "Exit" door is located.
My DD may be different from yours. She's not motivated by the bench AT ALL. Sitting on the bench does not encourage her to work harder. In fact, time on the bench tends to make her play worse. The more time she is given on the field, the better and more confident she plays. If my DD attended every single practice, and every skill session, and tried hard throughout BUT still wasn't seeing rewards for that effort (like new minutes or starts) she would feel cheated and lose confidence quickly. (This happened to her.) My DD needs to feel like she's being treated fairly and being rewarded.
PalindromeEye - I think your coach is bracing you for bad news. He/she is telling you that it doesn't matter how hard your DD works that she should NOT expect to be treated fairly come August. "Fair" isn't a part of the playtime equation once that contract gets signed.
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I suspect the girls that are more likely to step up to the challenge of competing for a spot are the ones competing for them on the teams aiming for D1.
I've seen girls give up the game due to losing confidence based on how they were treated by their coaches or how much playing time they were getting. While my sample size is small, I haven't seen any who have taken it as a challenge to earn more playing time. I have seen players work hard and burnout because of the expectations that their parents put on them, including the expectation to earn a spot on a specific team.
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I have a daughter that is currently rising to that challenge. It takes will, discipline, work and patience. Just like life.
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bench players
Bench Players-? They are called subs or say reserves etc. You all are looking at the bench as a bad thing. My bb and dd both spent some time on the bench for different reasons. My son was young and learning, very aggressive, but clueless. The Coach would instruct him before going in and then have him try to play his position which he was just learning. The Coach would sub him after 10 minutes and give feedback. Oh and this is the big kicker....if I tried to yell instructions and I did as I was getting frustrated with him and then the coach would take him out. The coach told me it was hard for him to listen to 2 coaches. So sometimes the Coach takes your kid out because you think you know more or are saying different instructions and confusing your son or daughter. This is probably most of us.....we just need to let the players be coached by their coaches, REC IS OVER!
My dd started on a lower level team as she grew and learned skills at U14 she joined a higher level team and then started to see some bench time as she was and is learning a new position....she struggles playing defense or defending. She is still learning and is enjoying the process...of course she wishes she played all the time, but now she is old enough to understand how to work hard for it.
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